“Cultivating the Wild Woman Spirit – Can Hair Mirror the Soul?”
Some may think the title of this blog is a bit bonkers! Maybe it is.
Is it as barmy as destroying ones almost waist-length, top condition, socially acceptable, naturally beautiful crowning glory?
Hhhmmmm??
Well… I did.
It takes courage and a free spirit to toss aside the pressures of our culture, and embrace who we in our hearts.
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A teeny bit of history and folk-lore first…
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When young children, especially girls, wake from an evening’s slumber with tangles and snarls in their hair, mothers with a tradition of fairy folklore might whisper to their daughters that they had caught fairy locks or elf-locks.
Fairies, they say, tangled and knotted the hairs of the sleeping children as they played in and out of their hair at night.
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How sweet and magical is that? I do love this bit of folk-lore.
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Wikipedia has a small reference to Fairy or Elf-locks…. another source says the first known usage of the term comes from 1592!
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Shakespeare references such elf-locks in Romeo and Juliet in Mercutio‘s speech of the many exploits of Queen Mab, where he seems to imply the locks are only unlucky if combed out.
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“She is the fairies’ midwife, and she comes In shape no bigger than an agate stone…….
That plaits the manes of horses in the night And bakes the elflocks in foul sluttish hairs,
Which once untangled, much misfortune bodes.”
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In King Lear, when Edgar impersonates a madman, “he elfs all his hair in knots.” (Lear, ii. 3.)
What Edgar has done, simply put, is made a mess of his hair
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In the Middle Ages horses found sweating in their stalls in the morning, with manes all knotted were said to have been “Hag Ridden”. The tangles in their manes were known as “Witches’ knots”.
There are stories that link this activity to the “Wild Hunt“. The Wild Hunt legend first developed around the 10th Century. The leader of the hunt varies from source to source. Some variations have it being led by the Germanic god Odin, while others have it led by the goddess Diana, who is said to lead an all-female version.
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Later folklore stated that witches would transform people into these animals and ride them.
Waking up with knots in your hair and a sore body were said to be sure signs of this
… and you were probably in BIG trouble with the church if discovered.
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To read more about this in-depth check out this – “The spread of witchcraft folklore to and in America“
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On with the story… “The Cultivation of the Wild Woman Spirit – Can Hair Mirror the Soul?
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I birthed my new babies at LAMMAS on August the 1st 2013.
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Sometimes, do you need to destroy a thing in order for something new to rise out of the ashes?
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I wanted a change because I have changed.
I felt that my outward appearance needed to reflect that change every time I looked in the mirror. Occasionally I regret it when they are totally bonkers with stray hairs flying out all over the place! But I don’t want my socially ‘safe’ hair back, I am moving forward!
I chose to sport Elflocks because I wanted to foster that Wild Woman Energy that I felt had diminished a little since pregnancy, birth and ‘big change’.
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They are only 2 weeks old in these pics. I love my new-borns, all 39 of them.
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When I was young, whenever I saw another woman with dreads I was in awe of her confidence. I wanted some of that confidence and wildness to rub off on me!
As I got older, I became an adept at cultivating that adventurous, confident and free-spirited individual.
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I had experimented with dreads before, well, they were neglected extensioned clubbing-hair, lol, and they were super cool at the time!
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I didn’t realise it until I wanted ‘proper’ dreads that they were different kinds.
I am glad that I discovered the folklore of ELF-LOCKS, FAIRY-LOCKS and WITCHES KNOTS because DREADLOCKS didn’t quite sit right. The reasons for having my hair like this bore no link to the usual stereotypes.
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The affinity I felt was with that ‘Wild Woman’ archetype’, with that confidence and ancient feminine wisdom. A truly Witchy Woman is complex. You can not put labels on her. I urge everyone who reads this to seek out Clarissa Pinkola Estes work, in particular “Women Who Run With the Wolves”
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I chose to have Locs to mark this important Rite of Passage in my life. Being pregnant and giving birth were amazing and incredibly empowering. I loved it. Becoming a first time mum in my forties simply knocked the stuffing right out of my body, lol, and my confidence.
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I am hoping my hair will be a cool ‘tool’ to help me on my path of deeper self-development and awareness. I am hoping that they might outwardly reflect back to me a feeling, still in the process of exploring, that I have on the inside.
AND… Spiritual hippy dippy dribble aside…
I have had them put in cos they suit me and simply look AWESOME!!! lol.
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Thanks again to my dear friend and Dread Technician Hoby Lopan Mcflobo.
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You have helped put the ‘Tribal’ back into ‘Tribal’, lol Mmwwahhhhhh! xxxxx
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To read more about Elf-locks, Dreadlocks, Druid Locks click on these excellent links…
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http://www.waterwitchemporium.co.uk/blog/4591775596/Dreadlocks-…/10533219
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…and in the next blog remember to read Cassie Halls really good contribution in the comments section…
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http://www.dreadsuk.com/dreadlocks-guide/the-concise-history-of-dreadlocks/
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Hooooly dooooly. I cannot tell you how much this post meant to me.
I have had a deep desire to carry the locks, but I too did not sit comfortably with the ‘dread’; I will not apply the dread to that which I find so freeing.
I am a mother of two boys and now a new bub, a girl. I am so confident in my being. I know what I am inside and want the outside to reflect it. I sometimes wear dags, sometimes floaty dresses, sometime workbooks and checkered shirts… My wardrobe is what I’m doing. My hair is long and wavy, but does nothing but sit… Which I do not. I want the hair that shows, no matter my clothes, that I am… ME.
My children, my husband and I love the joy and adventure that fairies and folk bring. THIS is the article which had brought that joy to my wanting of elflocks. Thank you for putting it in words. I shall learn your words and credit you when I quote you in response to the questions I’m sure I’ll get.
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Ahhh dear lady 🙂 your words inspire me too! My locks have been such a journey, inner and outer. My wild heart shines through and inspires, even when I don’t particularly feel shiny maybe that day. This year, as my locks tighten and thin, I am adding colour in the form of synthetic additions…and the movement of colour month by month make me feel so happy! I FEEL like a rainbow! lol. “FROM CROW TO RAINBOW” is my motto this year, lol. 😀
Enjoy the journey dear sister, even wearers of “invisible” elf locks feel the call of the wild, lol.
Much love
Tribal Ali xxxx
ps… please post a pic as and when you birth your new babies xxxxx
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Tomorrow is my day.
My hair, at midway down my back, will become my showcase. My intention is to adorn my lovely locks with all the many wee trinkets my little ones give me. The boys often find treasures of seashells, gum-nuts, flowers and gems – these can be worn proudly. I also have cottons of many colours, left to me by my great grandmother – they will twist and wind their way around my locks too.
My hair has been many things to me, taken on many guises, but I am finally in a place where my hair will be for me; not work, not fashion, not to attract, not to conform.
Thank you again lovely woman, I am incredibly grateful for having found your words on the eve of my journey.
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How beautiful 🙂 I love that 🙂
I also adorn my hair with bone beads I make myself from the animals I work with Shamanically and intimately. I do not remove them but let them fall out naturally when the time is right…strangely… despite being indoors a lot, especially over winter, I never find them again! lol.
Good luck on your journey beautiful lady.
Much love xxxxxxxxxxxx
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Hello beautiful lady ☺ how is your magical journey unfolding? Apologies for late reply, I do not manage my blog site like I used to and have recently changed much about myself. I still have my locks, but I have a new name and emigrated to South America ❤ blessings to you dear sister xxxxx
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I love this message ☺ post a pic of your crowning glory! 😀👍❤❤❤❤
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Oh my gosh, I’ve never heard of them called these other names and I love it! I finally got my locs in Summer 2011 and have since shaved the lower half of my head. I love my babies, too! And they represent me, the me I see inside, on the outside. I am a wild woman, too! Thank you for this post!
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Wonderful 😀 and apologies for late reply. I don’t manage my old blog site like I used to ❤❤❤❤
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https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polish_plait
This is the oiginal elflocks. Its in reference to a severe lice imfestation. Not intentional dreads. So it may not be a good idea to refer to your dreads as any of these names.
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Thank you Ren ☺ that was a fascinating read! I didn’t know about the Polish plica until that link, it was very interesting and enlightening. My locks were purposefully made and are clean and we’ll maintained. I don’t really care what people think or say negatively about me, I am comfortable with myself ☺ however all knowledge has its value and I will, when I can find the time add this value link to the blog ❤❤❤❤ Thank you xxxx
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Living in Washington it’s hard for a person who is white to wear dreads without being called out as racist or them say they are culturally appropriating. However many do not know the history behind locks and that nearly every culture has it’s own variation. When doing cultural studies in anthropology, I’ve come across at least 16 different cultures other than the above mentioned that have a lock that mimics the dread or fairy locks.
I’d like to make light of this that something hair can do naturally, and has deeply seated cultural roots especially those trying to go back to their heretical roots should be able to practice without shame or persecution. Thanks for being who you are.
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Thank you 🤗❤🤗❤🤗❤
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